Feelings are just messengers

The door slammed behind me as I stomped out the door, jumped into the car and drove away fuming. The same old argument with my husband with the same old results. The anger was so intense it felt like I simply could not stay in the same house with him without exploding. Why? How do…

Living in the present, or The Now as Ekhart Tolle termed it, is the only way to live with less stress. Past and future don’t even really exist except as memories and concepts in our mind. We can’t affect anything in the past or future, yet almost 100% of our stress comes from regretting the…

Sensitive, shy people are not social misfits. Of all the types of gifts in the world, this is the one we need the most. They have a unique and much needed gift of compassion. These are people persons, quieter and less outgoing than others but still vitally important in their ability to sense and minister…

Emotions are data to help us navigate the world. Uncomfortable emotions feel like monsters hiding in the shadows waiting to pounce. They can seem uncontrollable. Often people say “It’s just how I am” as if emotions are hardwired into our brain before birth. In reality, emotions are nothing more than data about what is going…

Even negative emotions can be our allies when we know how to listen to them. Uncomfortable emotions feel like monsters hiding in the shadows waiting to pounce. They can seem uncontrollable. In reality, emotions are nothing more than data about what is going on inside of us in the same way our 5 senses provide…

Lack of resilience, having stress based or negative responses to challenges, is an indicator of the story you believe about what the events mean to your life. Think about that. Knowing this truth changed my life and it can change yours. Events are meaningless, or neutral. They can’t make us feel anything. How we react…